Forgiveness in a Relationship

IMG-20150212-WA0035“Laugh and the world laughs with you, cry and you stand alone”

How true, everyone likes to be a party to joy and cheer. When you are sad, even your shadow leaves you behind.

A question that has been troubling me since a few years, is it very difficult for a person to forgive another despite their seeking an apology and asking for forgiveness? Despite the fact that the person values the relationship more to actually prove the right and wrong?

Many a time, we see the story from our view point, however good a judge you are of human character and can understand people’s mentality, one does err at some point. That is how it is with me… I have made my share of a mistake, sought apology but, my dearest friend feels, I have done much more and deserve no forgiveness. All the joyful times spent together, the care, the joy, the affection is all forgotten. Somewhere I have been judged a little wrongly I feel. This friend who knows me in and out, can understand me so well, has also made an error, which has now made the friendship, the relationship dry and has lost its charm and lusture.

Why does such a thing happen Krsna? I wanted to just ask, am I such a person, who cannot be forgiven? Are the mistakes so bad that one doesn’t want to forgive but wants to carry the anger forever? Aren’t we loosing out on the time which we could spend together sharing thoughts, caring for each other?

he krsna karuna-sindhu dina-bandho jagat-pate gopesa gopika-kanta radha-kanta namo ‘stu te

O my dear Krsna, You are the friend of the distressed and the source of creation. You are the master of the gopis and the lover of Radharani. I offer my respectful obeisances unto You.

Why is this happening to me? Why only the faults are being highlighted and the true love, affection of a friendship and the good relationship is forgotten? I have called out to you in distress….. with the hope of an answer soon.

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